Sunday, December 14, 2014

All Is Not Lost - Five of Cups

The Five of Cups speaks about regret, and remorse over severed relationships or an unfulfilled dream. We all at one time or another live with regret, saying to ourselves "If only..."

We don't need to focus only on what is spilled. There is still one cup that remains, and it is upright, so all is not lost! There is always hope!

We can't hold onto regrets, because it is living in the past, and this robs us of today's happiness.

There is nothing we can do about what has happened in the past, other than makes amends, if we need to, and ask for forgiveness. We also can make the effort to not repeat the same behaviour, or make the same mistakes.

Usually people will forgive if we are honest, and have a sincere heart. We forgive others that have hurt us, for ourselves, not for them, so we are not carrying around resentment, and bitterness, that eats you up inside, where a bitter root grows, with bitter tendrils like vines that invade, and enter every aspect of our lives.

 The hardest thing is to forgive ourselves, this has always been my experience. Accepting and acknowledging that we have done wrong to the person we have hurt, including ourselves, enables us to move forward, to make a new start, and strengthen our relationship with ourselves, with others, and with the God of our understanding.


thesycamoretree said...

Love that quote by Tolle! The hardest thing for me to learn about forgiveness is that I held the key to unlocking the chain. I carried a heavy burden that I blamed on someone else, but only I could choose to put it down. I punished myself with more pain than the event that caused the original hurt. My freedom and relief was all up to me. :)

Unknown said...

Thank you Bev, Tolle's comment sure summed it up for me too!
That's a hard lesson to learn but a good one. I've had a number of those my self. I know I had anger I wasn't even aware of until I backed myself right into a corner, hurt myself especially, and hurt others as well, especially my family. Hard to live with that, but like I said, forgiving ourselves that's the hardest I think.

Thank you Bev for your thoughtful comments, helps a lot! <3

Ellen said...

Hi Catherine! what a thoughtful post and sadly so easy to relate too. I too love the quote byTolle. Sometimes I wish my life was with less hurt en regret, without the need for forgiving others and myself but in my heart I know it is wiser to be grateful for everything I have experienced so I can embrace my life and myself with Love and Kindness and enjoy the present day

Unknown said...

Thank you Ellen <3 Yes I have never read Tolle but would like to, need to put that on my book list!

If we can be grateful for all we've experienced, I think that is a huge blessing.

I think we can all be too hard on ourselves, and need to love ourselves more. I'm a work in progress!

Love and blessings to you Ellen. <3