Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Stalemate - Two of Swords



The song 'Stuck In The Middle With You ', and the saying, 'Stuck between a rock and a hard place', is what comes to mind when I look at the Two of Swords. Orestes despairs at being  in the middle of the quarrel between his mother and father. There is a stalemate and seems to be no resolution in sight.

We all find ourselves sometime, in a position where we are stuck in one way or another, and can't see the forest for the trees, which can cause great tension and anxiety.  We find ourselves neither happy nor unhappy. But if I can somehow detach with love, find objectivity, with discernment, clarity will come into view.

I really dislike being on the fence, though it does happen. I know that not everything is clear cut, not always black and white. There is always a lot of gray area, but for me it is important for me to take a stand. I cannot stick my head in the sand, in denial, always walking on eggshells to avoid conflict and maintaining the status quo.


Feeling as if you are damned if you do and damned if you don't, is an uncomfortable spot to be in. Finding myself in this place I can do one of two things, accept the situation or not. Then I have to decide if there is anything I can possibly do about it.

 I understand I cannot change or control anyone's behaviour, but I can choose to 'vote with my feet', walk away and control my own responses. If I can't figure out what to do and feel paralyzed emotionally, well then, I have to turn it over to the God of my understanding, ask for help, trusting that my request will be answered. This always works for me, not so much for my cats.



5 comments:

Ellen said...

"walking on eggshells" I know the feeling. When my girls are bickering about something trivial and they want me to chose sides. They can get very irritated by eachother and I don't want to be pulled in the middle. Maybe I should turn it/them over to God too
Hugs

Ellen said...

forgot to check "notify

Catherine Meyers said...

Ya they must be teenagers? When I was a Youth Care Worker sometimes I was better off to let them work it out and let then know that. Lil' teen aged egg heads! <3

Ellen said...

Haha eggheads!
No they have grown out of their teens (24 and 27)but still their is that sister rivalry sometimes :)

Catherine Meyers said...

HA!!! Well they're still close enough to have egghead residual behaviour. LOL ;)